Samantha Brick*

Who is she? Well just over a week ago, virtually no-one knew who she was…..until she wrote the article “'There are downsides to looking this pretty': Why women hate me for being beautiful”.

‘Highlights’ of her article include:

“Throughout my adult life, I’ve regularly had bottles of bubbly or wine sent to my restaurant table by men I don’t know. Once, a well-dressed chap bought my train ticket when I was standing behind him in the queue, while there was another occasion when a charming gentleman paid my fare as I stepped out of a cab in Paris.”

“And whenever I’ve asked what I’ve done to deserve such treatment, the donors of these gifts have always said the same thing: my pleasing appearance and pretty smile made their day.”

“While I’m no Elle Macpherson, I’m tall, slim, blonde and, so I’m often told, a good-looking woman. I know how lucky I am. But there are downsides to being pretty — the main one being that other women hate me for no other reason than my lovely looks.”

If you’re a woman reading this, I’d hazard that you’ve already formed your own opinion about me — and it won’t be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face — and usually by my own sex.”




“And it is not just jealous wives who have frozen me out of their lives. Insecure female bosses have also barred me from promotions at work.”


 “Unfortunately women find nothing more annoying than someone else being the most attractive girl in a room.”

“I find that older women are the most hostile to beautiful women — perhaps because they feel their own bloom fading.”

“So now I’m 41 and probably one of very few women entering her fifth decade welcoming the decline of my looks. I can’t wait for the wrinkles and the grey hair that will help me blend into the background.”

“Perhaps then the sisterhood will finally stop judging me so harshly on what I look like, and instead accept me for who I am.”

You can read the entire article and see what Samantha looks like here.

Needless to say, this article has caused controversy…….women and men have all thrown in their 2 pennies worth. A few of the comments left on the article:

“I don't judge on looks, but this writer seems so deluded, I thought perhaps she needed a reality check. Sorry if this sounds mean, but the writer is not that attractive. In fact, she is only marginally ok looking. Her arrogance, however, is breathtaking. Perhaps the reason that other women don't like her is because she comes across as an unlikeable self-obsessed narcissist?” – Annie from Toronto Canada

“Is this an article written for April 1st? Unbelieveable! If it is serious, and the DM have actually paid for this load of pap, then I have a message to Samantha - Get over yourself dear, you're actually a lot less attractive than you evidently think you are. No doubt this will be explained away because I'm jealous, fat and ugly.” – JeannieJeannie, France

“Looks average to me, bit of a dreamer perhaps.” – Les, Leeds

Other women cannot stand her because she is warm and has a sunny nature. Beauty is not only looks but attitude and a kindheart, men are attracted to her because she has a sweet sunny nature. She is not an ice queen. The jealousy of other women is what makes them ugly. They cannot bear loveliness because it shows how rotten they are.” – Ella, Croydon Surrey

This article has truth in it. Gotta love the jealous women clawing at each other. Women hate another woman prettier than them, or they become friends with them to try and get some of their friend's male attention.” – Dave, Bristol


The backlash was such that she did a follow up article confirming that she was right in her assertions - you can read it here.

Here are a couple of quotes from the second article:

“While I've been shocked and hurt by the global condemnation, I have just this to say: my detractors have simply proved my point. Their level of anger only underlines that no one in this world is more reviled than a pretty woman.”

“Without doubt, this is a gender issue. For not only is it mostly women who are attacking me, it is also because I am female that I am being attacked for acknowledging my attractiveness.”


When I read the original article and looked at its author, I laughed. She is definitely not ugly, but I couldn’t see what the excitement was about. Yes, she is good looking for a woman of her age…the blue eyes and the bottle blonde hair certainly help her. But I view her as a Plain Jane. To think that women are jealous of her and threatened by her average looks are probably down to their own insecurities rather than her self-proclaimed lush appearance. I thought that some of her comments were rude and arrogant – this in turn made her less attractive.

I discussed it with friends, who also found it puzzling how this woman could really view herself in such a way. One friend went so far as to say she had “psychological deficits”!

The articles have since got me thinking:

  • Do women as a whole really dislike attractive women?
  • Is it her looks or ‘confidence’/personality that women are apparently threatened by?
  • Was she correct in making those assertions?
  • Should she treated in this manner for these bold comments?
  • Do I have ‘Samantha Bricks’ in my life? Am I threatened by them?
  • Can I blame her for thinking this way?

Like I said before, she is not ugly; she is certainly not a threat (to me anyway) but I have seen far more beautiful people than her. The contents of her articles are quite audacious, but she is a big and knew that that it would cause controversy – the results were never going to be pretty. I urge you to read both articles………

They say that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder”……well beholders, what do you think?
*so 10 days later i realise i've got the woman's surname wrong - it's Brick not Bright! so silly of me......

5 comments:

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  2. Oh dear! I just read both articles and am in utter disbelief. I am going to hold my hand to my mouth and stop myself from saying anything negative about the way she physically looks. However, I will gladly admit that I have seen, met and known loads of women that I confidently think would better define "beautiful" and "drop dead gorgeous".
    More to the point: I completely disagree with her when she says that women hate her because she is beautiful, or that other people are intimidated, threatened or jealous. Personally, I love beauty. I love all things beautiful and pretty, and therefore am attracted to such lovely things and people. I fully appreciate the beauty of women, and can stare/gawk at a beautiful woman (model/celeb/random person on the street) without a realization that I am doing so. Why else are so many females in love with female celebrities?! Because we think that they are so gosh-darned beautiful, duh! As humans, we are attracted to people that are pleasing to our eyes and these are the people that we surround ourselves with as friends. I don't think any of us would think that our friends are unattractive. All of my friends are beautiful. In fact, I can't even think of a single person that I know that I would describe as 'ugly' or 'unattractive'. Not a soul comes to mind.
    HOWEVER, as soon as someone opens their mouth and says something this arrogant and narcissistic, I'm afraid that the sparkly cloud of beautifulness that I viewed them with seems to *poof* disappear! And it IS because beauty isn't just your physical appearance. Beauty also includes a lovely personality and attitude. As soon as I discover an inflated ego, that person is no longer as beautiful as I once thought. That beautiful 'innocence' of something so immaculate is gone--forever.
    I think if this woman had never written this article I would've thought that she was quite pretty--especially for her age. But after reading everything she's written about how beautiful she THINKS she is...it has kind of made me sick. If she had done something so simple as written this article with phrases such as "my looks" rather than "my good looks" or "the way I look" rather than "my pretty face" it really would've changed the nature of the article. And I bet she would not have been judged/attacked so harshly. Clearly, proven the arrogant nature of her writing, her head is a bit inflated. Someone needs to bring her down to earth.
    Just saying'.


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  3. First, thank you for the nice comment on my blog. Second, i just read the both articles and i have to say that beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. I understand this woman, especialy as she says that female booses have been horriable thowards her because she might be slimmer, younger or blonder because i have been trough the same stuff and i'm not that pretty. But on the other hand, i can't imagine tha ALL the women are like that and i really don't think she is THAT beautifull as she writes over and ovear again.

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  4. I know I'm very late, but somehow this is the first time I've come across this article! I couldn't help but comment!

    My opinion of her appearance aside...I think most of her points are invalid and the poor woman is a bit deluded. I agree with her view that there are some women out there who dislike women who they perceive to be more beautiful than them, however I believe this is a minority and most definitely not applicable to ALL women. In fact, I would argue that most women are appreciative of what they perceive to be good looks. How many of us have experienced women we don't know going out of their way to compliment us, or ask us where we got "those shoes" from? And how many of us whisper "wow, she's really pretty" into our friend's ear when an attractive woman walks by? It's not uncommon.

    Additionally, I have many good looking, single friends who I believe are far better looking than myself - however I KNOW they would not try anything with my boyfriend and vice versa. If she REALLY has so many "friends" who don't trust her around their husbands, I think she ought to evaluate her own personality and what she is projecting to others, instead of sitting back and declaring that they must be jealous and insecure. It's a very immature and unattractive trait, to refuse to look at your own character and assume that the problem must lie within everyone else in the world who doesn't feel the same way as you.

    Furthermore, she needs to realise that a lot of women get attention from guys they don't know - there are a lot of men in the world, all with their own preferences. It is unreasonable and quite arrogant to believe that because she gets this attention, it means it must only be saved for the most beautiful women in the world.

    I think the responses to her article were often unnecessarily rude and could have been put in a more constructive, eloquent way, however I can see why people have reacted like this. There is a difference between being confident and being arrogant, and unfortunately arrogance is not attractive.

    Very interesting article and great blog post!

    Akilah x

    www.perfectlyrandomblog.blogspot.com

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    1. this is practically a post in itself lol!

      Thanks for taking the time to read the articles and my post and comment on it x

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